The General Rules of Flirting
When it comes to flirting, a number of factors come into play and we will explore these, but as a general rule most people find they are drawn to the person who acts in much the same way as they might do. This is because if two people react in a similar manner to a given situation, the chances are they going to understand each other and get along well. For instance, a woman at a party who is an extrovert is more likely to be attracted to blokes who look as though they’re having a great time, while a quiet bloke is more likely to appeal to a woman who is shy. This flies in the face of the notion that opposites attract. Certainly, they do, but they don’t necessarily get on famously in the long term unless they also have a tremendous amount in common.
The essential thing to know about human nature in order to be able to flirt with confidence is that most of us take notice of and feel attracted to those people who show a genuine interest in us.
Doesn’t your heart skip a beat when you catch someone looking at you across a crowded room? We are susceptible to this kind of personal attention because it makes us feel special. Who do you usually smile at? The person who smiles at you first, of course!
People, like mirrors, are naturally reflective. More often than not, the way we feel about others is a reflection of the way they think about us. If we believe that someone is taking a genuine interest in us, we tend to feel kindly towards him or her, we feel drawn towards them. When someone ignores us or if we suspect that they dislike us, don’t we just hate them? Many of our attitudes and patterns of behavior towards other people are determined by the way they treat us first, so if you have any hang-ups about becoming a flirt, now is the time to review your rationale. No one will admire you for being a wallflower.
Showing interest in another person invariably means being the first to smile, being the first to make eye contact, being the first to introduce yourself and being the first to spark a conversation. All you need is the courage to take the first step. The next time you encounter someone who strikes you as future partner potential, don’t hesitate, and take the initiative: flirt!
