Flirting is not a Game!
Flirting, if you are serious about meeting your ideal partner for a lasting relationship, is not a game, it is the starting grid where all great romances commence. The idea is to make the object of your affections aware of your presence, to intrigue charm or captivate him or her before their interest evaporates or settles on someone else. What is obvious and striking about you will attract their attention at first, but you must follow up with something more potent than eye contact in order to make sparks fly and create a lasting impression. Plain women with handsome husbands and nondescript men with gorgeous wives know this.
As you contemplate, perhaps nervously, staking your claim to happiness with the person of your choice, bear in mind that the one you want is out there looking for someone to love at this very moment. The miracle is that you can be that someone when you tap into the countdown philosophy. All you have to do at this stage is take the initiative and flirt when the opportunity arises, instead of looking the other way, hiding away in the background where nothing happens, or freezing like a deer when the spotlight shines on you.
Do not worry about the possibility of making a mistake, being rebuffed or making a fool of yourself in front of others. All these scenarios are possible but you will be adequately trained to handle disappointments so that you can pick yourself up and keep on going until you win in love. You will also be better equipped than you have ever been to screen out unsuitable suitors early, before they can make off with your heart.
A fear that many non-flirtatious people of all ages share (nearly always without foundation) is the belief that they are not handsome or beautiful enough to flirt with aplomb.
The next time you are out among a bunch of couples, take a good look at who’s with whom. I would be surprised if you don’t see some attractive women with men whose claim to tame is something other than their looks, and vice-versa. That’s because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Intelligent people who make a success of their relationships are more concerned with whether their partner is loyal, loving and lovely to be with than if he or she could double as an actor or a model.
